All of my close friends are finally over 21, yet we rarely go out to bars. There are a few reasons, some of which are my own personal problems with taking these people out and others are their own personal problems, which I will now spread all over the internet. I’m going to go ahead and leave names out, even though they’ll know I’m bitching about them if they ever read this (which I *highly* doubt they will). Let’s start with a quick list of why I enjoy going to bars:
- its public property, versus someone’s house where you have to worry about being courteous and things like spilling
- alcohol never runs out
The only real cons I see are the cost and the possibility of having to cab it home (versus a DD, which doesn’t always work out).
Here’s a quick breakdown of the 3 main reasons why my friends don’t like going to bars with me or just aren’t invited:
1. A couple of my friends don’t understand that just because we are drinking, it doesn’t mean you have to get WASTED. Sure, drink away, but know your limits. I definitely drink WAY too much sometimes (my birthday being a PERFECT example), but even though I get drunk, I;m not obnoxiously hammered to the point of needing a babysitter. Things my friends have done because they are too drunk to be in public include:
- drinking from random drinks strangers have – just because it’s there and not empty, doesn’t mean you can take sips
- sleeping at the bar – go sleep in the car, don’t get kicked out because you drank yourself into a coma
- pissing yourself – enough said
- knocking over tables/barstools/people/drinks – walking disaster
- whining about wanting food…to everyone – no food here, pretty sure those people don’t care how hungry you are
- eating other people’s food – just because the bar serves food, doesn’t mean you can sit with strangers and eat their food
Bottom line is-dont do anything that can cause a fight or would be grounds for us to get kicked out, and I’m a happy camper. Control yourself. You’ve been drinking since high school, learn your limits. We are in a public place and you “just having fun” is ruining the night not just for the rest of us, but also other patrons.
2. Complaining about the cost is one of my friend’s favorite things to do. I understand drinking at home is cheaper and we can get shit faced there, but the point of going to a bar is to meet new people, socialize, and have fun in a group setting versus four of us getting drink at someone’s house. I try my hardest to pick places without a cover and usually theres some sort of $2 beer. It really isn’t all that expensive. Every one of my friends works, and they all can actually afford it, they’re just too cheap. So, upon being invited, the “I’m broke” excuse usually surfaces and they end up staying home.
3. I go to bars for the social aspect of it. I am a girl. Men will hit on me. It happens. People will talk to me. Not all of the people who talk to me want to sleep with me, and I understand that. One of my friends had a very protective girlfriend and ANY time ANYONE approaches her girlfriend, she loses it. As the night continues, she gets progressively more drunk and more people approach her girlfriend, which pisses her off more. Her girlfriend always explains she has a girlfriend, but can’t help that people approach her. It’s part of the atmosphere; it comes with the territory. Instead of sulking in the corner and getting mad at your girlfriend (who is not at fault in any way), maybe you should socialize as well. Instead of assuming every person who goes up to your girlfriend is trying to hit on her, talk to them like she does. It will be obvious you two are together, problem solved. But no, this always escalates into a fight between the two of them. You live together. Do you really think she is going to take someone else home or leave with someone else? I *HIGHLY* doubt that. The last bar we went to, the argument happened early in the night and she ended up walking home while we stayed and enjoyed our night. Talk about a buzzkill.
I got to bars to be social. Sure, it can get expensive, but we’re all here to have a good time. Get a little drunk, not hammered, and socialize. Maybe we’ll meet new people to kick it with. That’s why I go out. Not to get wasted or spend all my money or fight over stupid things.